Finally found out! 

I have been there.  My ex cheated on me last year with our son's daycare teacher (sickening huh?).  Like you I had a feeling for a few months that something was just not right, but I brushed it off thinking my man would never do that (honestly still can't believe that he did....he is not the man I thought he was).  Anyway but the gut feeling that you get is usually right....as was mine.  One day I found a condom in his drawer and it was not our brand.  I put it back and waited for the day that it would be missing.  Not sure why I did that.  I guess I was not ready to admit that he was really cheating.  Then I found the condom missing one morning when he was supposed to be going to a concert that night with friends.  It was horrifying.  I did not want to believe that.  It took another 7 months until I found out the entire truth that it was our son's daycare teacher.  I came into our son's daycare room for about a year not knowing she was with my husband.  I felt so gulliable like you, but even when I knew he was cheating who would think it would have been with her?  I knew I would never trust him again and ultimately he wanted the divorce so he ended it with me.  So for me I am happy to say that I am in a new relationship now with a great man.  I am shocked, but I dont feel like I have trust issues right now.  I guess I look at it as if this is a new person and I can't judge him to be like my ex.  I guess I am lucky to feel like that.  Feeling like I was gulliable is hard to deal with at times though.  We trust people because we love them.  In the end we need to realize that no matter how wonderful we are so people are just dogs.....some people just cheat when they should have been man or woman enough to leave if they were not happy.  Remember it is not us who is crazy....we just need to deal with the outcomes of the crazy people doing stuff to us.  Good luck.....

BLP and Achiever479...you guys seem to know EXACTLY what I have been through.  It is so weird when you KNOW what he is doing, you just don't have solid proof.  My husband has done this to me so many times that now, I'm more pissed than hurt.  All this talk about how they wouldn't do this to you, then to find out they did! It just really gags me.  I can't believe these people even sleep at night.  You know, I texted the *itch my husband is fooling around with and told her what a fool she is for even getting involved with him.  My problem is...how do I break it to my kids?

  We are here for you, take care.