How do you deal with an irresponsible STBWW? A few weeks ago she left for 10 days and had no intention of telling me. Barely contacted the kids. Last night she left in the middle of the night for 5 days. No notification. What if I had to travel for work unexpectedly? What if something comes up with the kids? She is doing nothing about getting a job or looking to move out. It makes no damn sense why I can't kick her out or hold her accountable. This damn state ticks me off.
Between her running around, getting std's, spending without doing anything to get a job its not fair. I will be the responsible one for the kids but dammit when will she get her head out of her ass. This last time just makes it no doubt I will be going after full custody. She can't be trusted with her own life much less the kids.
I am communicating with her on my plans and whereabouts to ensure the kids are taken care of. My son was devastated last night and I couldn't figure out why. Now I know. She has no idea what she is doing to him. While he's almost an adult her behavior is really hurting him. I now really believe she is bi-polar and is in a manic state. She barely sleeps and continues to live only in the moment without concern about those around her. I only hope her next depressive state is not so severe she injures herself.