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Make a list of why you don't want them back.

My STBX is beginning to reconsider.  She had a fight or 2 with the OM and now is trying to get back into my life.  Honestly it scares me.  I finally started living and even enjoying the thought of starting over or at least not having her in my life.  I have always been the one to give in to make forgive,  but now I realize I need to take care of me in order to be a better me.   She just isn't the woman for me.  She is beautiful and funny but deep down she can't commit and stay faithful.  In the end she leaves me empty and lonely.

 

Has anyone else made a list of reasons why you will not take them back. 

 

 
by science2748    18 Posts   
Posted on 7/6/2008 1:14 PM    
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commited adultery
commited fraud on income tax refund by signing my name illegally
lied constantly
mean spirited
selfish
hateful

abusive mentally and physically

horrible person during the divorce.

i saw a side of him that would not want one to marry again ever
by gab   1 Post
Posted on 7/10/2008 11:36 AM
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Oh the list I have written about my ex and why I don't want him back:
  •  Liar
  •  Cheater
  • Selfish and self-centered
  • Mental Abuse to me and to our kids
  • Thinks he's perfect in every way
  • Manipulator
  • Control Freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Not happy unless he's spending lots of money!!!!!!!
  • Materialistic (which goes with spending money!)
  • Antisocial
  • Terrible in bed
  • Very picky eater!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Only the best for himself--the rest of us--Too Bad!!
  • Irresponsible
  • Puts himself first and the kids last
  • Had to walk on eggshells while he lived here!!!!!!
  • Threw temper tantrums like a 2 yr old---Still does!!!!

I could go on forever and ever believe me!!! Won't bore you anymore with details!!  :)  Just glad to be rid of him and I wake up everyday and think of one more reason I don't want him back into my life!!!!  That gets my day started off with a bang!!!!
by freedom   143 Posts
Posted on 7/7/2008 11:07 PM
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  • liar
  • cheater
  • drug user
  • verbal abuser
  • physical abuser
  • alcoholic
  • mean
  • childish
  • selfish
  •  irresponsible
  • bad example to children
    • Humm..
    by asim   719 Posts
    Posted on 7/6/2008 10:35 PM
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    I'm all about lists...

    I made lists of why we should / shouldn't be together, how my post-divorce life would be better / worse, how the kids lives would be better / worse, etc.

    Without going into the gory details like the other posts, I would just say, whether you are a list maker or not, it does really help to focus the mind and consider what is and what is not important.

    I know in the emotionally murky waters of divorce it's nice to be able to cling to something a little more concrete. Certainly helps in the decision making process. Good luck to you all in prioritizing your lives.
    by djboon   43 Posts
    Posted on 7/6/2008 8:08 PM
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