My husband and I have a relationship with a lot of ups and downs. We don't like each others parents and it taking a toll on our marriage.  His father is forever putting his 2 cents in and is very opinionated.  To be very honest I don't feel his parents were very good ones.  Of course that is a whole other issue.  We have a 2 year old daughter and both realize it is not healthy for us to be fighting in front of her all the time.

In February we were going to split but decided to work things out.  Of course it got better for a few months and then went downhill again.  I know we can be better to each other if we put all the past behind us.  He always rehashes the past and we end up fighting.  Half of the time the past isn't about us.  It is about our families.  I would hate for our marriage to end because of our parents.  I tell him that "our" family is all that matters and that if we still love each other then we should work it out.  I think he is afraid that no matter what we will keep ending up back here so he is afraid to work it out.  He is living with a friend, but comes here every day.  He claims he needs this or that.  He calls me and texts me every day.  I told him he needs to stay away for at least a week with no phone calls.  He needs to see if he misses me and wants to come home.  He need s to feel like he lost his best friend, I know I feel that way!   Does that make sense?  I am so afraid he will realize he doesn't want to come home.  I am not ready for that.  I am not ready to give up on our family.  He claims he doesn't know what he is going through and can't give me 100%.  I begged him to be honest with me.  He told me he is trying to get over his issues and is hopeful things will get better.  I am just so scared to let go even though I know it is the right thing to do. 

The one thing I do know is that I don't want to keep going through this. I guess I should just give him the space and time he needs and at the same time concentrate on myself and my daughter.  Any advice would be appreciated.