Here is some great advice from Kali, the therapist I went to when my husband left me and I was struggling with living alone.

It’s important to become your own soulmate.    The spiritual journey is about coming home to yourself, when it’s about other people or relationships it’s doomed.

If you’re not your own soulmate, know yourself, love yourself, see your journey as connecting to yourself you can’t be connected to someone else.   If your core isn’t strong, if you don’t feel connected to yourself I don’t see how it can work.    I think you can gain strength from another person, someone can support you in your life and help to strengthen you but the origin has to be you and you.

Divorce is an opportunity to go over your life and look at what you want to change and start to dream and get creative about how you want rest of your life to be, how you want to spend your time, parent your children.    It should be all about you.

The more time you spend alone, the more comfortable you are with being alone, feeling the feelings of loneliness, the more likely to are to survive them.  Being alone gives you opportunities for creativity, transforming it into enjoying alone time, finding new hobbies, friendships.  Being alone can be very enriching.

You have to expect it to be painful, though, you don’t get to not be in pain, it’s just painful and you have to accept that and go through it.