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Well definitely taking into account your child is a top priority. Of course we all know childen mimic what they see, and if he's abusive towards you then you are setting up your child for a life of problems. Also children are much more perspective than they are given credit for. If you are unhappy and there are problems in the home, I'm sure at some level, even at the age of 3, your child knows things just aren't right with his parents.Considering your history together, I would go as far as to guess that initially in the relationship and in the marriage a good portion of you liked the situation. Hindsight is 20/20 and say now I don't like the controlling ways may be true, but initially there could have been a significant portion of you that liked being accounted for, taken care, and controlled. Being controlled isn't so bad considering that you have very little responsibilities. And considering the age when you got married, teens are taken care of and controlled. Figure that it was what you knew, but you also probably wanted to get out of the house and establish yourself as an "adult." Probably not the best way to do it, but hey, we all make mistakes. Though, you have aged, and have aged in a very significant portion of your life. What you wanted or were comfortable with initially can significantly change. That's okay, it's your life, and it's up to you to make it a happy place.
And in closing, wanting friends. For your husband it probably comes a major shock. For 5 years, you've been solely with him and he thinks that's the way things are. Though, people change and interests/desires change. It is easily possible to stay together and to change together, but both parties have to be in the situation equally. If he would come to understand that you've missed out a major portion of your development as a young adult and need the perspective/company of others, and this in no way is a slight against him (hell maybe you expand your social network together) I could see that portion of your relationship working.
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