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I told my husband tonight that i was going to see my aunt and he looked at me like i was a child and said , it's 8.30 were are you going, and i thought to myself OMG this guy is nuts. So i told my aunt that i would see her tomorrow and i would stay the night so my husband can see what is't like when he goes out. Just plain stupid i can't think of a nicer word to describe this man right now. Good night to all the people that are in the same s*** as me!! We will make it!!

by lol 10 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 12:06 AM

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Trust is a big issue and you are a big girl and should be trusted especially if you have not given him a reason for mistrust. Going to a store or to a relatives house should not be a concern when there is love and trust with each other. Remember you do have friends here and we know when someone is just upset with things in their life. Friends are not friends if you can't tell them your true feelings.

by BBear 47 Posts
Posted on 6/30/2008 2:11 PM

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I did not mean to get upset either i know people that are here are here just for this reason, to talk and to get support so if i sounded like i was going off to much i apologize. I appreciate the fact that i can write about anything that i feel like and have someone respond and make me feel a little better so thank you to anyone who takes the time to write me a line or two!!

by lol 10 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 2:46 PM

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I may have come across the wrong way. What I am saying is that in a marriage he should not have a problem with you going to see your aunt or going to the store or anywhere else for that matter because he loves and trust you. If he does react like that then there is a problem and that is good that you are planning before you divorce. Some spouses are so in a rush to end their marriage that it leaves them with no money, no job and with a question of what do I do now? Always remember that there is a way out but always stay focused and yes you can survive, you should not be talked down to and disrespected. That is a mistake that many spouses do and they don't realize it till it's to late.

by BBear 47 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 10:17 AM

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I have been a homemaker for 8 years, and at 34 with 3 kids i think i am grown enough to drive by myself and visit my aunt. I don't need to ask permission and i will not ask for permission, he can't bully me around and the more he act's like this the more i will try to break free. There is no way in H*** i will put up with this, as i said before i am planning my way out i just need to make sure i get a job and my kids don' t suffer emotionally, i was a divorce child and i saw my dad beat up my mom and try to strangle her and she divorced him in a foreign country where she did not know anyone or the language so if she can do it and survive i know i can. And no i have never cheated nor him.

by lol 10 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 9:51 AM

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This is for both husband and wife. If your spouse has this type of reaction when you want to go out, you have to ask yourself what did I do to make them not trust me or what are they doing that they feel it would be easy for me to cheat on them. If he loves you and trust you that should not have been a problem, if anything he should have asked if you wanted him to drive you.

by BBear 47 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 9:35 AM

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sounds like a one way street and no one deserves that.....you need to stand your ground. good luck!

by JLK 302 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 8:08 AM

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He is allowed and you are not. Seems pretty typical sometimes.Been there and done that and not going back.

by mtnvly 2291 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 7:45 AM

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