sigh...ok shock...

here's the thing, I went back and I read every one of your posts and to be perfectly honest, I think, in many ways, you are your own worst enemy in this divorce process.

There is something you have to come to terms with - when your life ends up in divorce court - what you want, and what is fair to both parties, and legally allowed - can be different.

I realize you don't think your stbx should be entitled to any say, any right or any, well, anything due to your claim of abuse - but the second you dropped that PPO - and I for the life of me don't get why - you re-leveled the playing field for him.

He has rights. He has a right to marital assets, he has EQUAL rights to his son. How he treated you makes no difference in that.

You in several posts, show that you don't do what your attorney advises - so it makes you difficult to work with or for. You won't get anwhere in this process if you don't cease contact with your ex and just go through the attorney's - all you do is piss each other off and then that puts you 5 steps back from a settlement.

Your case doesn't necessarily HAVE to end up in trial, and I'm worried that if it does, that is going to be a lot of money you end up spending to end up with where things pretty much are now.

You say your attorney doesn't want to hear your concerns - well are they concerns, or are you overly emotional and are you more looking for her to comfort and reassure you? That isn't what she is there for - you need a counselor for that part.

Do me a favor, go over to the legal answers group, and in a post list your concerns in a bullet point fashion - keep emtional details out of it - don't forget to list your state. maybe I can help you understand things better.