RD..... sorry but you have confirmed it and you are a petty little person. I bet your ex wife is going to get the last laugh when you, your lawyer, and your self righteous attitude enter the court room.  Seeing how you handle the advice you asked for and how you attack people that tried to help you shows you will be screwed over in a funny, funny way. Stop crying about how you were wronged and grow the hell up and handle the situation. Instead of whining, get off you ass, get a pen and send the crap back. Stop looking for ways to screw her over and move on.  Oh and as for your lawyer....... I get the feeling they don't like you much either. Thats a good reason they don't listen to you and not doing as you wish. Deal with it & realize the world does NOT revolve around you.... never did, never will. I do feel sorry for you though. That should make you feel a little better. But my pitty is not for your situation. You are rude and holier than thou.  You deserve what ever the judge hands you. I hope she has a better lawyer than you do. MAN UP DAMMIT!!