I sure wish my soon to be ex would go for counselor, but he just wants a divorce. I think we would have had a chance if he just gave it a chance. I want him to be completely sure that we no longer had a future together.

I have an issue or even a situation,months ago my husband and i got into it over some simple issue ,that could have been .prevented.he just got crazy and beside himself as if he just doesn't care about things anymore or me and my children. he stopped showing affection, he stopped doing his part as a father on somethings even when it came to our children.and our children noticed what was going on between ,us well not exactly they don't know how bad he really misused part of the ten commandment of our marriage. that should have not even started in our life .that i didn't know until a year ago when some disturbing things came out that he's said and told to me .Still not able to trust or feel that i could. get back with him. because he has lied and put me through alot that i can't even get grips on. just shocked.and confused.but still hanging and being strong for my children. because they really need me for any questions or concerns that i may and hope to help them with . we have been to counsiling .yes but it didn't work for him and i .but my children and i had counseling as well and it was the best thing that i could have done for my children.they still ask questions from time to time but i don't give any of separation issues.to the because they are kids and they don't deserve to see anything else that has happened .what to do help.

If you are unsure of what you want then there is more to work on. I am too in the process of all of that we want to make it work so maybe with some counsling it will.

wow.. thats so hard.. but Im all for trying to make something work if there is hope.. I pray thats me some day.. good luck!

I agree! If you're both willing to stick it out, I would recommend seeing a counselor or some professional third party. Most of the time, the issues are just festering misunderstandings. Try finding the core of what's wrong between you and work together to fix it.

better be sure. might want to talk with your spouse about this if you are unsure. maybe she is too.