Should I date or wait.

4 weeks before divorce is final. This week I met a beautiful woman. . She energized me and made me fill alive again. We only talked for a couple of hours with friends but I would love to find out how to get to know her better. I haven't felt this way about another woman for 20 years. She is 29 I am 39. Should I wait to pursue this relationship? Until after the Divorce? How long? My ex is already heavily involved with another. How do I know if it is right? How do I tell her about the seperation\divorce?

by science2748 18 Posts
Posted on 6/22/2008 11:54 PM

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I can defintley keep it as friends until after the divorce is final. She lives in Washington, DC me in Dallas. I haven't said much about the divorce to her yet so she doesn't know the details. I will tell her next chance I get.

by science2748 18 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2008 11:31 PM

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In my state, you can get sued for having sex with a married person--separated or not--so in this factual scenario it's her that needs to be careful, not you.
Be up front with her. Your marriage is over, tell her how things are and if she's cool with it, roll. For the next four weeks, be extremely discrete and keep it out of your spouse's face. Do that and you should be fine.

by UNCJD 21 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2008 7:46 AM

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here is my two cents. If this woman energizes you, then she should be a part of your life. Bare in mind that friend ship is probably a better thing until your divorce is truly final. Robert is right, do not drag someone else into your mess before things are finished. If she is as great as you make it sounds. 4 weeks is not a long time to wait.

by dyben 614 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2008 6:42 AM

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It's kind of a judgement call really. If you get 5 replies, they'll all probably say the same thing. I mayself, am leaning towards waiting for the finalization in my divorce. It just keeps things clean and easy. Why drag another woman into my divorce; it's not fair to her.

I'll let other people give you their slant, and you can make up your own mind.

by Robert-Boyd 5134 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2008 12:17 AM

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