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Trying to move on when you have children

I would like to know how you can move on when you have young children, especially at Christmas time or the holidays. I think that you can move on in your life, and later be with someone else, but you still have the memories of being cheated on and have to see your ex when it's holiday time. It hurts so much. I know that sometimes I can push it to the back of my mind but at "special" times like these, it's hard, especially when you have memories of the holidays together when times were much better.

by Deborah-Trevino 416 Posts
Posted on 11/21/2007 10:36 AM

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My holidays were great with my kids. I am looking forward to a bright new year.

by Deborah-Trevino 416 Posts
Posted on 1/2/2008 8:23 AM

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Okay, so the Holidays are almost past with this evening yet to come off like a charm for many. What are you doing? I hope enjoying the time with your children, involved in many new opportunities for your future. I am looking forward to 6:00p. This is when I am able to pickup my beautiful daughter so that we, too, can move on with new traditions in our lives. Happy New Year...

by bp 1012 Posts
Posted on 12/31/2007 5:39 PM

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thankyou so much for your opinon....and I think that you are right on this one. I have made some family traditions with my kids and our holiday time is special but I guess because he cheated on me and I hurt so terribly, whenever I see him, after it's been awhile, I hurt all over again and wonder why we couldn't have worked it out. He cheated not only 1 time but after we got back together he cheated several more times til I couldn't take it anymore. He won't come and pick up our daughter except maybe one time in a 3-4 month period and this is also hard. Thankyou for your input...this helps alot.

by Deborah-Trevino 416 Posts
Posted on 12/3/2007 11:10 AM

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Yes! Its been three years since my wife cheated on me. We have two wonderful kids that are younger. There is still a lot of pain esp since my ex-wife cheated on me with my (former) friend. I can tell you that time does give you perspective. The perspective is that your kids are the most important aspect of your life and that should be the sole focus. I do not have a good relationship with my ex. Our parenting plan has a lot of transitions so I have to see her frequently. Holidays used to be very hard for me. But, I have moved on and have built distinct family traditions at my household. There is no magic answer other than time and defining your traditions. I don't think ignoring the past is mentally healthy because you can't move on. Acknowledging the past but defining how you want to move forward with your new household helped me. I really look forward to the holidays.

by phoenix 1 Post
Posted on 12/3/2007 1:26 AM

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I would like to know this too.

by samantha 83 Posts
Posted on 11/30/2007 3:25 PM

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