My soon to be ex husband is taking his sweet time moving out!

My stbxh has a girlfriend he can move in with and many other friends that have offered him a place so, why is he taking his sweet time to move out? He has abused & controlled me for over 29 years now I just want him out. He keeps telling everyone that he has no place to go and they give him pitty because they think I am the mean one here. Of course he forgets to tell them what he has done to me in the past. They all think he is the most honest kindest person in the world, well he is to them!

by supportgal 3 Posts
Posted on 6/21/2008 9:00 AM

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When I filed for divorce I had my ex served papers at work and he was given 24hrs to get his personal belongings and get out. He eventually ran out of places to stay and asked a mediator if I would let him move back in until the divorce was final. Against my better judgement, I said yes as long as he didn't drink. Well, he ended up spending most of his time in the garage drinking. We had to sell our home and both start over. If you don't set a cut off date and make him stick to it, he will take advantage of you forever. I don't know what the laws are in your state, but you should be able to get him out and have a restraining order put on him. I know when mine was moved out he had to have my permission to even enter the house to see the kids. I think Paula is right about it being a control issue. It was with mine. Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

by KatieC 12 Posts
Posted on 6/29/2008 9:08 PM

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this sounds like just another way to be controlling....and he will probably continue this role far past your divorce date. do you have children together? if you don't, i would make sure to never have contact with him again...if possible. if you do have children, find a way to have very minimal contact with him going forward.

as for getting him out. give him a date to leave. and if he won't, you need to consider leaving yourself.

by paula1 5208 Posts
Posted on 6/22/2008 7:52 AM

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