My soon to be ex husband is taking his sweet time moving out!

first of all i really feel for you because i am going threw the same thing. and i do not know how you could deal with it. someone told me if you get an restraining order against him. then he has no choice not to move. he is going to tell you that he has no place to go, so he could probably make you unhappy! so you need to stop and think about what you really want because no one wants to be a doormat.

When I filed for divorce I had my ex served papers at work and he was given 24hrs to get his personal belongings and get out.  He eventually ran out of places to stay and asked a mediator if I would let him move back in until the divorce was final.  Against my better judgement, I said yes as long as he didn't drink.  Well, he ended up spending most of his time in the garage drinking.  We had to sell our home and both start over.  If you don't set a cut off date and make him stick to it, he will take advantage of you forever.  I don't know what the laws are in your state, but you should be able to get him out and have a restraining order put on him.  I  know when mine was moved out he had to have my permission to even enter the house to see the kids.  I think Paula is right about it being a control issue.  It was with mine.  Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

this sounds like just another way to be controlling....and he will probably continue this role far past your divorce date.  do you have children together?  if you don't, i would make sure to never have contact with him again...if possible.  if you do have children, find a way to have very minimal contact with him going forward. 

as for getting him out.  give him a date to leave.  and if he won't, you need to consider leaving yourself.