i have been married 18 years, my wife was my best friend for the first 14 years. we did a lot of things together and enjoyed our selves. then 4 years ago she started spending time with a female co worker who is a person of faith. she convinced my wife to start attending worship with her. i have no problem with religion, im just not a religious person and do not want to be. her going to church once a week was not a problem. the problem started when she spent 3 nights a week at church functions and sunday morns at church. thats 4 times a week. now its been brought into my life without being invited. it has affected the way we spend time toghether and how she thinks i should live my life. in the last 4 years i have tried to be tolerant so she could do her thing. i dont tell her how to live her life. but it has pushed me to the point that i have started seeking other relations with someone else. dont get me wrong, i love my wife dearly but dont think i can go the rest of my life living like this. i have meet someone else and i think im falling in love with her. we have been friends for about 2 1/2 years and it went to another level about a month ago. when i say level idont mean sex, just emotionaly.  i have no idea what to do with this situation. i could really use some advice.