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where am I?????

I am not feeling the love. I am just not feeling it. Counseling only twice so far. Mostly what I feel is guilt for making my husband feel sad. he says he feels guilty. about what I don't know. I really just want this to be over and I am going to counseling to make sure I have done everything I can. recently an aquaintance told me that in other countries there are aranged marriages and they all work out fine. And that love is a learned thing, not a romantic thing like we think of it here in the united states. and that those who choose not to go with their "arraingement" have no family and friend support at all in those countries. But I am here, not in an arrainged marriage and I am not happy with it. I don't have the guts. I want to make sure the kids are ok. My husband wants to be sure that we do everything with the klids in mind as our first priority. I agree. I just have to get up the nerve to tell him. do we really make out own happiness?

by jowi 22 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 9:13 AM

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thank you for your thoughts! Sometimes I just want to know there is someone out there. My sister is very supportive and my friends are asl well, but none of them have been in this place before.

by jowi 22 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 2:00 PM

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I think there is someone out there for each of us to love and be in love with. I don't think you can be forced to love someone....it is either there or it is not. I don't want to be with someone who does not love me. Life is too short and there is someone out there for each of us....it is just a shame that some of us have to go through more than one relationship to get there.

As for the kids...I completely agree. If you put the kids first in everything that you do in the divorce and moving forward they will be fine. I have two small children and they are doing surprisingly wonderful in everything that has happened. I attribute that to the fact that my ex and I have always put them and their happiness first. They know mommy and daddy do not live together anymore, but they know that each of us loves them and always will....and that is what they need....security and love.

by JLK 302 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 9:33 AM

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