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What do you miss most?

What I missed most when my marriage ended—desperately—was sharing my life with him. Despite everything that was missing from our marriage, we were a family, and he cared about me—or I thought he did anyway. He took me to the doctor when I was sick, sat by my side when my mother was dying, listened to my frustrations about work, supported me when I had a feud with someone, even gossiped about mutual friends with me. He was interested in what I did and what I thought. We talked about politics, art, movies, and psychology. We laughed at the same things. He had a great sense of humor. He was my best friend. He was the person I would have gone to for comfort about being left by my husband, if he weren’t my husband.

Now what I miss most is not him, but not having someone to share my life with. No one else has appeared so far, and at 65, finding someone I have that much in common with is unlikely. So I will share my life with Shadow, my little doggie. That has it's own rewards.

by EricaManfred 172 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2008 7:35 PM

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Well I know you miss the idea of being married, of course you do. But aren't we glad that actual human being is gone? And occupied elsewhere? I know I am. It takes time, but having fun and laughing helps. Take care

by elane 256 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 10:09 PM

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Am in the same boat, PLEASE someone throw me a life jacket!

by lostinnj 13 Posts
Posted on 6/17/2008 10:07 PM

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Erica,

I appreciate your post as I've found a new perspective because of what you wrote. I thought I was missing my husband or now I should call him my ex (I haven't come to grips with that term yet), but I believe I am missing that person to share my life with. I miss having that constant person by my side and there when I come home. The weekends are the hardest because we always planned and spent time with each other. It feels like it is an effort to make plans with anyone especially now because we shared friends. The majority of our friends are married so we did things as couples.

I don't miss him; I miss the idea of him. Being married is comfortable and safe. This new situation I am in is unfamiliar so I feel insecure and alone. What can I do to overcome this? I understand that I will heal through time, but what can I do today? What about here and now?

by Cricket84 3 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2008 8:43 PM

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