I have been married for two years now to a woman I thought I would be married to for the rest of my life.  But after she moved in with me and we bought a house together her behavior became even more erratic than before.  She became very suspicious of me, accusing me of lying and cheating every time I left the house.  She would love me one moment and then the next be asking herself why we were together.  She would behave very impulsively and then regret what she had done and slip into a suicidally depressed state of mind.  Even though our financial and future plans were in pretty good shape (no debt, sprawling farmhouse on 6 acres in a rapidly appreciating area) she would always devalue my efforts and actions and tell me she felt financially insecure.  We went to counseling but she expected me to change, not her.  She is very guarded and lies and has no close friends - feels everyone is out to "get" her.  I feel sorry for her but do not know how I can help.  We are finalizing our divorce but I am concerned for her health and well-being.  We spent the last three weekends together and things were very smooth and nice, but this weekend she tells me she doesn't want me around the house (we are finalizing on the sale of our house) because she doesn't want the "drama".  Her anxiety issues have led her to develop colitis, which is intestinal bleeding.  She is treating the colitis but the meds don't work because the colitis is a symptom of her deeper anxiety problem, which she acknowledges but refuses to address.  Should I be concerned for her, should I care since she is the one who filed and wants me out of her life?  Is she abandoning me because of the intense guilt and sense of worthlessness most borderline personality types suffer from?  Any help?