Everyone's path is different, and it will take as long as it needs to. You may date, and then realize it's not time yet. So just wait a little longer and try again. I refused to date after my divorce. I determined that I was going to first figure out what I did to contribute to the pain and suffering I experienced in my marriage. How did it happen? What were the signs? What could I have done differently? I was in an abusive marriage, but there is a thin line between blaming the victim and holding both parties accountable for their part. I knew enough to know that I had behavior patterns that I had to change. Each self-destructive habit I uncovered led me to the discovery of an unresolved issue that needed my attention. I was so worried that the right person would come along and I wouldn't be ready, wouldn't be whole. I wanted to be in a relationship based on truth, and mutual respect, not need. A relationship based on need is doomed to fail because needs change. And sure enough, along the way, I made a friend, and in time (when I had grown into a person who could have a good relationship) that friend became a lover. Two years later, we were married. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary in February. My advice: Know thyself.

I agree withblindasabat. When it has taken so long to get things finalized most of the trauma is over.
That is one of the reasons that I started dating my bf before he was divorced and didn't have too much of a problem with it. He was separated 7 years. Although he dealt with and is still dealing with drama from her, that is still a long time. Funny thing is that she blames me for her divorce, even though he has had seeral gf's since they separated.
If you start dating now and feel like you are not ready in any way, just wait.
Good luck to ya!

Blindasabat...thank you for your comments! I am pretty secure in knowing what I want in a relationship and have done a lot of soul searching in the last 2 years so I appreciate what you've said.

I agree.  I think you just sort of know, you know?

some of the women on here have experienced a steady stream of guys hitting on them - including the one woman who said all her ex's married friends were dropping hints left and right - not been a problem for me!!

i think if you have been in divorce mode for two years, you are fine!!  I believe that the "wait and make sure you are ready" comments are geared more towards the people who get hurt and are confused and potentially dating for the "wrong" reasons.....