law enforcement spouse

don't know what to do my kids and I need to leave my husband of 15 years due to increaseing abuse, but I don't want him to lose his job

by geco 2 Posts
Posted on 6/10/2008 1:44 PM

Get Alerts!

send to friend

2	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

Tags:

Answers for "law enforcement spouse" (5) (You must be logged in to answer)

You need to do what is best for you and your kids.
If you can get along with your soon to be ex - thats great but I doubt you will be able to.
You may need to move farther away from him.
I'm married to a control/abusive person. I'm having a hard time getting away from him.

by ks 2 Posts
Posted on 6/12/2008 4:04 PM

	0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

no need for apologies!!! Courage....

by blindasabat 5 Posts
Posted on 6/10/2008 5:34 PM

	0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

Thank you for the input. unfortunately the abuse is pyschological, physical,and sexual I don't think I could prove it in court though he is very good at not leaving any marks. he is also an alcohloic. sometimes I wonder how I picked such a perfect guy at least its only against me not the kids. sorry about the sarcasm I'm trying to convince my self this is not in my head like he says

by geco 2 Posts
Posted on 6/10/2008 5:13 PM

	0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

cagedbird is right - sounds like this is a tough one, but frankly, it is not that tough.

To me, there no excuse for physical abuse. None.

I don't care about his job, i dont care about his troubled past, i dont care if he dont mean it in the morning and he is really sorry and sweet afterwards - not to be rude, but I dont care....
In my opinion, there is no excuse for abuse. By hitting you he risked his job and apparently his marriage. He should have thought of that before he did it.

I feel really bad for you. I am lucky, my life hasnt been touched by abuse, but I know a bunch of drunks, and it is the same story.....

Sorry

by blindasabat 5 Posts
Posted on 6/10/2008 2:47 PM

	0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

life is full of hard choices. Have you already tried counseling and talking to him about his behavior? You are the only one who can access your situation and decide what to do. If you have family nearby maybe you could go there and take a break for a week or two to cool things off. Give him a taste of what life is like without you and the kids in it.
Not all abuse is physical. My husband, soon to be ex. was pyschologically abusive and very controlling. This type of abuse translates to physical sickness in my case. But this is pretty hard to prove in court.
Give us an update when you can.

by cagedbird 8 Posts
Posted on 6/10/2008 2:31 PM

	0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Submit \| Cancel

Divorce360.com is not a substitute for advice from a lawyer, accountant, financial planner, therapist or other professional to obtain advice. Divorce360.com is not intended to, and should not, take the place of professional advice. The opinions expressed in the divorce360.com message boards are those of the author and the author alone. Divorce360.com does not endorse any specific product or service.

law enforcement spouse

help you budget and plan

definitions from "alimony" to "writ of execution"

divorce, custody and child support links by state

get help now

Community :: Chat :: Answers

law enforcement spouse

help you budget and plan

definitions from "alimony" to "writ of execution"

divorce, custody and child support links by state

get help now