anniversary-but seperated

Thanks everybody for advice.  We are sort of trying to reconcile. Friends for now and look over things again in August.  I think that everybody was right about the couch thing.  I knew it was probably not the right thing but I just needed reassurance. Unfortunately, I am still stuck finacially b/c I am not allowed to have roomates-in fact will get evicted if I get caught (another reason not to let my husband rent with me I guess).  I am just going to be praying a lot that my finances will be met over the next couple of months.

If you are attempting to reconcile, then celebrate it. If you are not then don't.
The same goes for the couch deal. If let him move in and you are not trying to reconcile then it will only confuse things more for your child. It may only make matters worse and even confuse things more.
If you need hep with the rent then as JLK said, try to get a roommate. For your divorce/separation sake though, only rent to a female. It may complicate things right now if it were a male. Your husband may see that as adultery even though nothing would be going on.

Why don't you advertise for a room mate? In theory his staying there might seem like a good idea. But in practice it may not work. And even though your child is only 2 he or she will think Dad is home to stay. It could be confusing for your child. 2 year olds are aware of more than you know.

My ex wanted to take me out to eat on our anniversary. I had served papers on him the week before. I stupidly went. I spent the whole meal wondering why he wanted to celebrate something that was not going to be anymore. I had begged to have more "me time" with him for a long time. He never wanted that. Now that I had filed for divorce he wants to go out to eat. Was that one meal to heal my hurt or was it just another ploy for attention. I had a miserable time. Truly an awkward moment.

But you know your situation and you need to do what will be best for you. Take care.

In regards to the anniversary I would not celebrate it (that is my opinion).  I look at it this way....what are you celebrating?  That you are currently separated and not happy?  Seems silly.  My husband told me last September that he wanted a divorce and 2 weeks later it was our 5 year anniversary.  He emailed me and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner to celebrate the good old times.  I declined for I said why would I want to go out to dinner to think about the good days, cry, get upset, etc when it was all changing?  He went 6 months before that anniversary with treating me like crap and said how much he did not like things about me while he made his decision so how many good things would he have to say at a dinner?  I am glad to this day that I said no.

As for the sleeping on the couch while separated.....my gut feeling is do not do it.  It really would not be a separation then and I think it would only confuse your little child too.  If all else fails and you can't make ends meet then I guess you need to do it for financial reasons, but I would set strict ground rules about what each of you can and can not do in the house.  Me personally...I could never live like that.  It would make me anxious all of the time to have him around me.  I was better off alone.