I know my now ex-husband wanted to do this to me.  He was so frightening but made everyone think I was so terrible because after I filed for divorce I started seeing someone who turned out to be a person who enjoyed breaking up marriages and so he played on the fact I hadn't had sex or romance for most of the 20+ years I was married.  My ex had surveillance equipment installed and I think a GPS put in my car so he could keep track of me.  I received a notice in the mail from a university of a course he took about surveillance and how to break into a security system since I had put one in.  It was a nightmare. He had said he didn't want the divorce even though he had become so physically abusive that I was afraid for my life. I felt that after 20 years he could just decide to become loving and kind seemed ridiculous.  I am finding out that this really can happen with the right counseling but I was pretty far gone after he tried to break my hand and I'm a musician.So, I hope you separate for a year and get some time to really see what is happening before you do this to yourself and her.  He paid off 3 lawyers that I went to and so I went to court after 22 years of marriage and expected to end up in the street with very little.  He took every paycheck and handled all the money so we had very little to show for all the money we made as professionals.  It has been almost 3 years since the divorce was final and the counselor told me that if he loved me it would show in how he handled the divorce.  Well I guess he didn't love me much.  So, what you are doing shows that you really don't love her and never did. Or the anger is just talking right now and with time you will rethink this venue.Just wanted you to know what it is like from a female point of view.  It didn't last long with the person I saw and I've not felt like dating anyone at all after this devastating experience.  We became people that neither of us would recognize.  I have found myself. I wish that for you.