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Back and Forth ...

I've posted a few comments on this site, giving some details about my impending divorce.  As it goes, my husband claims that he is filing and that we need to separate for "long-term reasons".  The only thing is that he got an attorney almost 2 months ago and hasn't made a move on the divorce proceedings since.  This is a divorce that is unwanted on my part and I am trying to show my husband that I am still very much in love with him.  We still sleep in the same bed, have a wonderful sex life and are now beginning to communicate in ways that we did not before.  What is the major motivator for his actions seems to be his feeling that the bottom will drop out at any minute.  Although I know that I cannot force him to feel otherwise, is there any advice to keep the ball rolling towards reconciliation?  I think we may have a chance, but am too scared to push the issue ....

by Shanna   16 Posts 
Posted on 6/2/2008 2:47 PM
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Thanks to everyone who left comments to me.  I really appreciated the feedback for contacting divorcebusting.com and called right away to get a consultation.  My husband is a good man and a great father, just one that didn't concentrate on his own family.  As a wrestling, football and baseball coach, he is immersed into the community and many times, we never communicated on how our lives were together.  Even in association to our son.  Sadly, this gap is only closing now that we are on the edge of divorce.  He insists that we can never be together, but I realize that people change all the time.  He still loves me, I know that for sure.  I'll keep trying and with fingers crossed, I'll pray for a miracle.  I just don't see how I can live my life without him.  After 10 years with each other, he is all I know.
by Shanna   16 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 5:34 PM
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Hi Shana,
I think you are in a terrific position to get things going in your direction...I wouldn't beg or plead, just keep having the good times.  Are you talking to a counselor-check out divorcebusting.com they have great info on how one person can do things differently to change the relationship...they also have great coaches (I talked to Jody and thought she was wonderful)....good luck.
by saralee   9 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 3:53 PM
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this is very unfair of him to keep you waiting and living in limbo like this, don't you think?  it sounds like he is having an affair and can't make up his mind.  have you checked that idea out?
by Mary   179 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 3:18 PM
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What was the reason for him to file, did he tell you or just sat he wanted a divorce? Has you thought about marriage counseling? Why men are so secretive I have no idea.
by hulagirl   159 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 2:55 PM
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Try a marriage counselor, talk to your friends, and of course get support here also. How long have you been married?
by cancer   32 Posts
Posted on 6/2/2008 2:52 PM
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