Well one thing you can be optimistic about, is the fact that he hasnt let yet!!!!! :) Pray sweetheart, trust me it makes you feel sooooo much better, and it changes things, it can change any situation in due time however. Maybe right now alone time is what he needs to rethink this coward decision. I dont think people really think the good and the bad when they wed. They only can think about the good, and when the good starts turning sour, they just want to take off, forgetting that they have years, children and emotions invested in this relationship. This day and age people have taken the value out of a true marriage.......Back in the day, you never heard of Grandma and Grandpa divorcing!!!!!!!!!!!! What is wrong with our society.

Thank you guys so much for your advice. He does not want to talk to me right now and wish to be left alone. I will try again tomorrow.

I can't beleive he wants to throw almost nine years of marriage down the drain. You know, you are right. I should not agree to anything right now and I need to do what's best for the kids and myself.

I going to turn 30 this year and he will not be with me. Should I just avoid him now?
 
I know if I get too upset with him, it will turn into a yelling match and the kids would start crying because they fear the fact that one of us will be leaving them. I've assure them that we are not going to leave them and we both love them more than anything in this world and that their father and I are just having a lot of disagreements.

He has chosen to sleep in a different room away from me. I guess this is okay. I'm so heart broken :-(

Sweetie, I feel for you. My husband told me almost 3 months ago, he wanted a divorce, and pretty much loved me like a friend. Wow! We have been together for 3 1/2 years and married just 2 years 7 months! How can your love just dwindle down to just friendship. Shouldnt it have grown????????????............... Anyway, my first intial reaction was shock, then hurt, and now I am just angry. I have come to terms as to how we got to this point, but I don't completely understand why did he wait until things were this bad to say anything. He said that he had been feeling this way for amlost a year, but I had no idea! The last thing you want to do, is try to figure him out or understand why he wants a divorce, you will be trying to figure him out for the rest of your life.But you deserve an explanation as to why he feels so deeply about divorcing you. Then see if there is any room for reconciliation. You never know, this may be a cry out to you. Maybe there is something missing and he has been trying to reach you or get through to you and all past attempts have failed.  Have a good talk with him, a heart to heart and find out where you both stand with one another.  I think that is what you should do first. keep us posted!!!!

this is al great advice - i would only add - take care of yourself!!!  Please!

also, this is a cool site -many here facing similar - get involved!

Hey Hopeluv, I'm sorry to hear about your situation.  Mine was kind of similar.  MyUnwife told me the same thing, and all I could do was what your doing, support her.  It's tough, and at first it seems impossible to know where to turn.  It sounds like you have a job.  That's a good start.  First thing you need to do is be able to take care of your family.

How are you handling the divorce? are you getting a lawyer, are you going to do your own divorce?  These should be some of the next thoughts running through your mind.  And I know, how you handle it, can depend on your husband.

Don't forget to take care of yourself.  A divorce is a serious loss. We're forced to go through a grieving process similar to a death. This means theres going to be stress, and emotions running amok.  Consider getting yourself a therapist.  An outside voice, who can help you sort through the pain inside.

In the meantime, this is a great site.  There are lots of resources, and friendly people willing to give advice, or at least lend an ear.

Welcome, hopeluv, you're in my prayers.