Justification for Cheating

I have been a sexless marriage for well over 10 years and, believe me,  I can understand how tempting an affair can be. I will never fault someone who has an affair dealing with what I have been through. Having said that, there is no justification for having an affair. As many have stated, the issues in a relationship need to be dealt with. If they can't be resolved then it is time to move on. I didn't learn this until well over 18 years of marital misery. I kept my mouth shut and accepted the lack of intimacy. Now I will never get those years back and I'm running out of time. There just aren't that many years left for me.

There is no justification for cheating.  Suck it up or get out of the relationship.  To many people the worst thing you can do is betray their trust.  My wife cheated on me after I was a Drill Sergeant literally working from 5:30 AM until 9:30 PM 7 days a week for 9 weeks at a time.  Then the Army sent me on a deployment for 6 months.  She knew that when she married someone in the Army that something like that could happen.  It hurts worse when the non-cheater has been frequently wrongfully accused by the adulterer.

I do not think there is EVER an excuse for cheating.  If you are not happy then get out of your marriage or relationship and find what you want or desire.  I was cheated on in my marriage and the ramifications are horrible to put someone through.  I do understand that cheating happens because something is wrong in a relationship (usually for I know some people are just dogs, but anyway).....I said this before my marriage and I stand behind it now.....cheating is never acceptable.  If you are not happy than be a man or a woman enough to admit that and leave.  The truth of wanting out would have hurt me enough, but finding out about the affair on top of it was 1000 times worse.  The lies do more damage than the truth in the beginning would have.

I was the cheater in my marriage.  No...there is no justification for it BUT...it happens for a reason.  It is a symptom of a much bigger problem. I didn't have an affair on a whim.  I didn't want to hurt my husband.  I was trying to feel better because I was so lonely in our marriage.
It's easy to say that I should have left the marriage but life doesn't work that way. 
It's been over a year and we are still feeling the pain of my affair.  The fact that I'm on this site is a sign that it isn't going so well.  We are still dealing with the same problems that I feel contributed to my affair in the first place.
In my mind, I had the affair because my husband abandoned me emotionally but I am beginning to realize that I had to have left him as well.

Yes, cheating is a character flaw.  It is weak.  I have been cheated on as well so I know how it feels.

However, it is not intented to hurt the spouse (at least not in my case).  It is a way to fill an emptiness that is inside of you and unless you've been there, you can't understand.

Funny ...my bf was accused of cheating on his ex wife. He says that he didn't but she says that he did. Of course he was accused of it with every woman that he talked to , even the mothers on his kids teams. He even was accused of it with me before we even started dating. I know personally that didn't happen!
I can say that no there is no reason for it. BUT I just told my bf last week: Seeing what she has put you thru I would not blame you if you did  cheat on her. Every one needs to be loved. She abused you.
She is a hateful vindictive person. I have seen what she has tried to do to me and my family. She has blamed everything on him and did him the same way she has done me. She has attempted to strip me and my family of things just as she did him.
I also told him that if he had that he should have ended it with her then moved on. But hind sight is always greater than foresite. Sometimes you cannot see anything for the things you are going thru.
Would I cheat on a spouse? Heck no! Would I accept him back if we were married and he cheated on me? Heck no!