Can I get kid napping

I'm really stuck in a hard spot. I filed for divorce and my husband was even given the papers last year. He wanted to work things out. I was willing to. But I want out. Im sick of how Im treated and how hes always on the computer or how he be littles me. I am a stay at home mom and we only have one car. I am far away from any family. My husband is in the military and says if I leave he can get me for kid napping is that ture. Im starting to look online for military laws and stuff but nothing is helping. I have went to his comamns and b/c I have lied to protect him in the past nobody will even tlak to me. he's making up lies drinks alot. And is hooked on a computer game. He never wants to spend time with the kids and I. Nor just me and him time. I am in this blah state of mind and Im numb. I am not happy nor have I been for a while. Im just scared b/c he makes the money and is in control of all the bills I wont be able to make it back to our home state nor get custudy of our children. I I can't get a job here b/c of him taking the car to work when we can see his work building from our house and he could walk. We have two kids and daycare is a lt. I wanted a night time job but I cant trust that he would watch the kids b/c he is on the computer game 50 plus hours a week. today he was on the game for 8 1/2 hours and he used what little money we had in the account to turn his game back on. I feel like I have to free load off my friends to get by tell next pay check b/c we run out of things. I am also not in control of any of the money hes in control of it all. He has to put money into a joint account we have. I just learned what he makes in a pay check after being married 3 1/2 years. I have went to the comand but they wont lisent to me. In fact he lies and says Im crazy and I hit him lol. I think he needs help. but then again I think he is trying to make me crazy and do things to see if I will snap. Our kids wont even tlak to him unless he goes up to them it's always mommy do this, mommy can i? Mommy help me, mommy I need, mommy I want. and when I say got to dad tey say no hes on the computer. So Im wanting out of the marriage and b/c I didnt act on it a year ago when I filed I ahve to start over. and re-file if I leave to go back is it kid napping? Also I'm new to this so any help is needed.