child custody

You might consider looking at your divorce and your goals associated with it as a seperate matter from child custody. Your daughter has a right to have both her parents in her life and does'nt deserve to be put in the middle of an ego battle. The court today understands that gender is not the deciding factor in what makes a good parent so the mother does'nt automatically get full custody.  If you file for custody the judge will order a temporary custody schedule. Time with the child will be divided between the two of you. He will assign a guardian to investigate the both of you, thoroughly. The child will also be interviewed by the guardian and have contact with this person at least two additional times. So your daughter will be directly involved even if the two of you, family members, and friends have  perfect self control and avoid poisoning or otherwise misleading the child. This is likely to be for a minimum of six months. Finally the court will tell the both of you what the permanent custody arrangement will be. By filing a custody suit you have relinquished your own and spouses rights to work it out. The process may allow your husband the awareness of his parenting ability and he may decide he wishes his daughter to be at his home 50 percent of the time. This will be one of the first questions he is asked.  The best way to act in response to your husband's request is by upholding what is best for your daughter and avoiding bad advice. Good luck. I hope you both someday realize how lucky your daughter is to have two great parents who love her very much.
Darjeeling3

Get a lawyer and try to fight it. Can't imagine why he would want her know other than to pay less child support.
Write down dates and any info that you can remember in the past of when he was with her etc.
Good Luck!