child custody matter

I live in TN and am thinking about filing for divorce. The wife had an affair that ended about 6 months ago and we have been trying to reconcile since then. I hope to reach agreeable terms with her and want to have joint custody of out 2 primary school aged children with her as the primary caregiver because she is a wonderful mother (just a lousy wife). We both have equally good incomes so I feel we can reach an agreement on the child support issue. Is there any reason for me not to file this way? Am I giving up any particular rights? Is there any reason for her not to agree with this assuming I am an equally good parent (which I certainly am)? I just don't want to have a bitter court fight. We are intelligent enough to reach agreeable terms I believe...I just don't want to make a mistake in the custody matter. Thanks for any advice on this matter.

by cutdeep 93 Posts
Posted on 5/22/2008 10:42 AM

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I feel you have made the best choice. But that is looking in on the outside.The children are the ones who will be hurt the most, so it is best that they are spared the least pain possible. Just be sure she will not submit the children to the wrong people when your not around. I'm sorry for your pain and hope you can find a better beginning. Keep your kids close to your heart. Be sure they are shown love and not bitterness.

by hulagirl 159 Posts
Posted on 5/30/2008 12:51 AM

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Thanks Vicki. I have been dealing with this for so long that i am numb now so it is pretty easy for me to be civil. I can see now that there will be life after dvorce and I can find happiness again hopefully....so I may as well just be friends with her for the sake of our children.

by cutdeep 93 Posts
Posted on 5/23/2008 9:21 AM

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there is a resource box on this page that lists all the states divorce laws. i would start there. i would also sit down with her and make sure she feels the same way. i agree, avoiding a battle is key. be sure to think of everything though...there are long term issues with little kids....extra curricular activity fees, braces, college fees, etc.etc.etc. it's great to read someone who is trying to be civil about all of this. that's the best route for the kids.

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 5/22/2008 10:50 AM

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