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Am I failing my children??

I feel like a failure at my marriage of 14 years and even worse, I feel like I am failing my children.  They are 9 and 11 and I feel horrible about this inevitable divorce. 

I think you get to a point when too much has been said and done and there is no "fixing it".  I take 99% of the blame since I am the infidel.

I feel like I am letting everyone down including my parents.  Does anyone else feel like this?
by nanster    41 Posts   
Posted on 5/20/2008 7:17 PM    
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I just think a lot of people on this site have been affected by a cheating spouse, and have strong feelings about that issue.  I wouldn't worry so much about letting everybody down, but DO worry about the image your kids are getting of you, your husband, and marriage in general.  You are helping to form their ideals of what marriage and relationships should be.  Just be sure to protect them most of all, above and beyond anyone else.  The relationship is only "fixable" if you want it to be.  That's not something you can fake.
by elane   260 Posts
Posted on 6/15/2008 1:16 AM
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You are not on an island.
You , like everyone else, have made mistakes. You cannot feel as though you "let everyone down". You made a mistake and that is that. Now you will just have to pick up the pieces and move on. Like all other people, we have to reap what we sow, and that just means dealing with the consequences of our actions.
Deal with what has happened, learn from it and move on. That is what life is all about.
If you really are sorry , try to reconcile, it may not be in the cards but it would be worth a try.
Good luck!
by mtnvly   828 Posts
Posted on 5/23/2008 10:25 AM
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I have not heard any feedback on my post.  Does anyone else have this problem or am I on an island?
by nanster   41 Posts
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