Mental Illness, Drug use and Divorce

My wife and I have 4 small children under the age of 10. She has initiated a fairly nasty divorce proceeding and has and is tryng everything possible to absolutely destroy me. My question is this, she has lied under oath about 2 what I feel are very important issues, 1 her mental health, she's been on anti-depressants prescribed from 4 different physician's for the last 10 years, and her chronic marijuana usage, every day for almost 3 years. Should I bring this up? She has tried to acuse me of domestic violence, which the judge threw out, and has now involved CPS/DCF to accuse me of child abuse. She offered 50/50 living arrangements with the kids immediately after the judge threw out her request for a permanent injunction. The kids and I are walking sideways. Should I blow the whistle on her health and drug history just to get her off my back?

by TM 3 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2008 7:07 PM

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I meant throw the book at her

by freeme 434 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 6:43 AM

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weed can cause depression and other moody symptoms...... maybe if she told her Dr she was smokin da weed he would send her to rehab instead of prescribing meds to counter act the weeds side effects ............
through the book at her................give her a taste of her own medicine

by freeme 434 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 6:41 AM

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almost everyone is on some sort of anti-depressant drug these days, family court considers it a non issue. Even medicated bi-polar parents have full custody.

The MJ, not worth persuing either - if she has never been arrested for it it is hard to prove, and the fact you are the one that got her into it - well, do the math on that one.

Not to mention since she is making accusations against you, it could just look like you are retaliating.

Just focus yourself on proving her accusations are false.

I'm a family law attorney

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2008 8:30 PM

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One other issue, that I feel I should mention, Over the 11 years we've been married, I have put everything in her name, house, cars, business, credit, all assets, bank accounts, etc... She holds all the cards but is intent on being adversarial as well.

by TM 3 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2008 7:38 PM

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That was my thinking but I'm a little concerned about the DCF issue. I have to mention that I'm the one who originally introduced the marijuana 3 years ago to help her relax. We had just moved her mother in with us, and my wife was just absolutely beserk all the time, and so I figured I'd help self-medicate.
To add insult to injury, we've tried counseling and in the last year I found out that her mom severely abused her when she was little, and she was raped at age 22. I started seeing a shrink 8 months ago to make sure I wasn't going crazy, I'm not on any meds, and am now 45 days into being clean and sober. The problem the shrink told me is that I was an enabler for my wife. Anyway, this just pretty much sucks. Appreciate the advice.

by TM 3 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2008 7:36 PM

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I do think the court needs to know everything about both parties to be able to make an accurate and fair ruling. The kids should probably not be left alone with her if she is unstable and using illegal drugs.

by Barkley 912 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2008 7:23 PM

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