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what is this considered?

my husband cheated on me with another woman. now i did not throw him out or pack his things up. he left on his own and took half of his things with him and is living with that woman and her kids in their house. he left me and our children on his own intentions. like  i said i didn't tell him to leave. i live in new york. is that considered abandonment.? also, is he still considered committing adultry if we are not legally seperated and he's with that woman? plus , he's been  telling me and my kids that he's coming back soon and that he loves me but it seems like he's playing around with our feelings and lying. is that considered emotional abuse?
by leilani    11 Posts   
Posted on 5/17/2008 1:17 PM    
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He is playing games. The saying "actions speak louder than words" is right on. I feel for you. He wants to keep your mind open to come back in case he "needs" to come back. The whole "waiting in the wings" and "wants his cake and eat it too" sayings work in this situation too. Wow. I am so sorry. But that is abandonment and adultry. Yes, also to emotional abuse. Take that deep breath and get a lawyer or call a mediator. He needs to know that you are not playing games. ESPECIALLY when kids are involved. Honestly, what the heck is wrong with people?? Read books, use this site, STAY strong, your kids need your more now than ever. Good luck, Leilani!!
by ec   175 Posts
Posted on 6/3/2008 8:53 PM
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