Just split,he brings new girlfriend around my son!

I agree that what he's doing is immoral and stupid on his part.  He should let the kids get adjusted to the split up and upcoming divorce before introducing them to the girlfriend.  Especially when she's just in the picture and who knows if their relationship will be long lasting, I mean come on he cheated on you and she cheated to, they are both cheats and liars, they are bound to do it to each other down the line.  Once a cheat always a cheat.  My ex did the same thing, he is basically an immoral idiot and so is his gf and I told him that to his face to.  He started cheating on me in October, 2007 decided to tell me he was unhappy but said he needed to work it out for himself.  In December decided to tell me he wanted a divorce, not happy and not in love with me anymore.  He moved out in December right down the street from his gf and her family!!  Yes she was married and has 2 kids.  We divorced in March of this year and her divorce wasn't final until April.  The kicker of it is and what ticked me off is that he introduced our kids to her before she was divorced, and they knew about them being together before we were divorced.  Then I find out from my kids that she moved in with him and he basically introduced her to the kids and said on the same day that she's living there!  What a creep!  So I know what you're going thru with an insensitive idiot that doesn't put your kids needs in perspective.  I would gather enough evidence of the affair and give it to your attorney, and seek limited visitation right now, even the morality clause if you can.  I agree that the texting is childish and obviously she has insecurity and guilt issues to deal with.  I don't sympathize with her at all!  I do wish you all the best with your kids, they are the most important people in your life and you need to take care of them and yourself to.

I would consider what he is doing in poor taste, even with filing for divorce, you are still married, and the txting is just childish. I had the same thing happen with my now ex's gf and she was very nasty as well. It is insecurity, I think so anyway. There is no reason for nastiness. And me and my now ex had only been seperated for a month at the time as well. And yes if you can prove he is seeing this woman it will be in your favor in court, because that is considered an affair. And I agree not to try and put the kids in the middle, they are going through enough already, and taking sides will only hurt them later. Good luck, I hope things get better for you and your kids....

No you are not crazy for wanting that. It is not good for your son since everything is so new. I am not sure you can do anything about it but to have the morality clause put into your agreement about no overnights.My bf's ex had one in theirs that said he can't have a gf in the presence of the children. It has been enforced BUT if he has a lawyer then he will not sign it.
Just be there for your kids and don't try to make them take sides. If you do that it may drive your kids away and you don't want that.
Maybe since he has done this so quickly you could ask the judge for limited visitation.
Technically, he is having an affair, even if you are separated. If you can prove it is in your favor.
It amazes me what people do to their kids. He should at least wait until the kids adjust to things. It is traumatic enough.
Now I will say, so that you don't think that I am a hypocrit should you read some of my posts....I started seeing my bf before he was divorced. He had been separated for 7 years and attempted reconciliation numerous times. I did not start seeing him until a year ago. I had no part in the seperation but did encourage him to divorce, to stop the drama and control that she has.  I will tell you that it could be said that we were having an affair. I didn't feel too bad about seeing him due to the length of separation and the fact that just after seeing him a few times, I saw the things she was doing to him and the games she was playing. I never would have considered seeing him had there been any chance of reconciling.