meeting w/ attny

well, we met with the attny, trying to keep costs low - what was presented to my husband didn't seem fair to him, but did to me since i made most of the money during our marriage, and he's the one having the affair and left me. the day after he left me, i also got laid off my job -so i'm dumped & dumped. i stood by him for years while he was getting sober in AA meetings, etc. i kept up the house, helped my family, went to grad school, etc. we have no kids because i'm infertile - we were going to adopt this year. anyway, the incident is that he wanted this divorce for over 5 months, finally confirmed the affair had been going on for 6 months that he'd been unhappy for a long time with me, etc. - so he left - always complained about the lack of sex (i have a medical condition), and that i was a lousy housekeeper, the house was too chaotic, etc.... it seems he got what he wanted - away from me, my nagging, my messiness, my lack of sex, our crazy house, my silliness, my spontaneousness, the two dogs, all the things that he hated about me, and living with me, etc and he has a young (25, we're 41) girlfriend that they are intimate all the time, etc. then why oh why does he keep insisting he's not happy about this separation / divorce and why oh why does he look SO bad? his girlfriend is a recovering heroin addict (just using as recently as March), and he's a recovering alcoholic, but why does he look so terrible - pale, thin, his teeth are stained from smoking / coffee (drugs), when they were not just a few weeks ago...i just cannot factor it all together. for months he's been saying he hated living here, couldn't wait to be away to be content on his own (well alone with her), why the miserable presentation? i imagine that he's upset about losing out financially, but really, he should be yippy skippy happy - he got his freedom from me which is what he said he wanted all along, and pretty young clingy friend that thinks he's the biggest hero ever... what gives?

by 6108 42 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 9:54 AM

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it's what happens when the little head with no brain is substituted for the big one with one.

his loss...

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 5/17/2008 1:35 AM

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the grass is always greener on the other side.... Esp when he are 41 and she is 25.

Mtnvly is right!

by jackson 723 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 10:15 AM

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He is not happy because it is actually is the wrong choice that he is making.
He is going thru mid life things.....and he does not deserve you.
I think I would count my losses.You have been there for him. That needs to be reciprocated.

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 9:59 AM

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