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Never Mind the Kids, Would You Stay Together for the House?

Couples divorce because the alternative seems better than staying together. With the latest issues in the mortgage industry and the panic in the housing market, more and more couples are rethinking "better."

 

For many couples, the house is the largest asset they own.  When that asset is devalued, and, in several cases, the mortgage turned upside down, it becomes impossible to sell it.  This leaves many couples tied together who under better circumstances would not be.

 

The same thing happened during the great depression. People stayed together because they couldn't afford a lawyer. Some Therapists see this as a bad sign. "If there's anything serious going on like domestic violence or other kind of abuse or ongoing infidelity anything that makes it untenable or dangerous to live together then there has to be an alternative," says therapist Suzi Mohn.

 

Couples taking a second look at their marriage isn't a bad thing, and chances are any couple brought to the brink by abuse or infidelity will not try to stay because of the housing market.  If things are bad enough, people will leave rather than stay together for the house.

 

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I did stay many years because of children and my home.  You see we moved in our home before it was really livable.  We finished one room at a time as money allowed us.  So, what others consider a house was really more like a child to me. I put up sheet rock, floors, helped with all the electrical work and everything else. Lived with all kinds of outside pest because there were to many outlets for them to get in.  I had one of those bug zappers in the middle of the living room the first summer we moved in because we had no a/c or screens on the windows.  Had to get air some how.....LOL.....   What was nothing but studs and a sub floor and outer walls became my home.  I conceived and raised all  3 of my children there. It was my life for over 30 years and I didn't want to loose it.  Finally, I had to because he wouldn't and it came down to suicide and going to hell or leave.  So here I am.  Poor, watching 2 of my children and soon to be X  RUN A FRAT HOUSE.  Do I have regrets?  Yes, that I didn't do it earlier when the kids were really kids  (they are 21 and 27 now). They have learned from their father how to treat women.  We are to be seen not heard.
by freelady  11 Posts
Posted on 5/14/2008 12:09 AM
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I'm with Linny.  What threshold of pain can you take living under the same roof if the conditions are so intolerable you would consider divorce in the first place?
by justokguy  115 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 4:21 PM
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Staying together for the house is ridiculous in my opinion.  If your marriage is over, it is over period. Sell the house and move on.
by Linny  152 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 9:35 AM
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