If you can't get your husband to make his own decisions.  I would get out.  Especially if no kids are in the picture . It's easier.  If you wait and have kids.  And hubby doesn't change then you will probably have his mother in your life trying to raise them too!  Try talking to him first with a good counsler. Good luck!

Rissa727,
How much do you love your husband? Is it worth the Mother in-law coming between you? Yes I have one to, she was always in our business until I told my husband are you married to your mom or me. Of course she never like me so that help some, he told her he is going to be with me a long time so please do not get in the middle. It took her 5 years to understand we are going to stay married awhile. So yes if you want to get a divorce go ahead, you need to feel good about be married to his whole family. Good luck.

Been there, done that. My ex painted my living room while I was out of town. I came home and instantly hated the color but told him I would "try " to like it. It never grew on me. I told him I wanted to repaint..his reply ? But mom says we should leave it.
He came to work one day( I worked at his moms office) and went into her office and shut the door. They were in there for about an hour. When I came home he informed me that " his mother was going to build him a den in the house we lived in. I live in a cape and they were going to section off the living room, build a wall and make him a den. I have a stove( similar to a pellet stove) that is in that room. When I asked him how he was going to get the heat circulated, that building that wall would enclose the stove and the heat would not leave that room, his reply was" I didn't think about that". I told him MAYBE had I been included in the discussion to do this, they WOULD have thought about it.
I walked away from my job( which was a business she was going to give me ) because I found an email( it was my JOB to go thru and clean out emails as she is clueless to things like that) to a friend of mine trying to get him involved in my marriage. About a year later , we divorced.
If he can't severe the ties he may never be a total man.I don't mean never speak to her but I mean he needs to be turning to YOU, not her, you are his wife. Is it a good exuse> That I can't answer. I told my ex once that he needed to divorce his mama. That if he didn't he would never have a real relationship with anyone. He actually told me that I might be right. I will never again try a relationship with someone like that.