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remain calm, when u go to the mediator, you must  go with the best interest of the child, yes hey make it easy, but dont argue and stay calm, they help by giving you different scenrios, that other couples do.  you will be okay.

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hey there

I don't mean to be a downer to you, but since the judge ordered every other week after school is out - then all during summer that will establish a status quo and it will end up continuing if the two of you can't come up with something reasonable.

I can understand him being angry with your choice to put him to a pretty much part time father - every other weekend and one night a week - is not a fair arrangment. You have to step into his shoes a moment - would you be okay with only seeing your kids for that small amount of time after being able to come home to them every day when you were married?

Every other week is not that hard on kids during the school year when the parents live close. Also starting it when they are this young makes it easier as well, it is what they get used to from the get go.

You can change it up to be two weeks with each parent with the kids going to the other parent during the mid vistation weekend.

You won't get what you want - the judge won't even agree to it considering that he has already ordered every other week. In all honesty, it sounds as if he will order complete 50/50 if you two don't come up with a different arrangment, and what he ordered is just been done for you to get used to it.


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Once you go to the mediator they make it very easy to come to an agreement< you have to hav the best interest of the kids in mind.  My ex took our 13 yr. old out of school where we live and moved him to the jr. high in the town over, he wanted temp full custody, didn't get it.  Now after mediation I got full physical and 50/50 legal.  I wouldn't really worry, the judge will have the best interest of the child in mind.

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To clarify...also I do not want every other week during school.  don't mind during summer.  During school I would like visitation/one night per week and he can get them every other weekend.  School routine is too important I feel to disrupt every other week.

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pretty much as far as I can tell except for the next 3 weeks.  He cannot stand that he does not have total control of this situation and me. Prior to this hearing he had demanded every other night with the children and because of pretty much fear and harassment, I had agreed to that until court. He also was somewhat upset about some info in affadavits about his temper

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I'm confused - isn't that what the judge decided --- what your ex wanted?  Every other week?  What am I missing?

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