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My husband & I had a great marriage. There were some times things got rough. His mother stopped talking to him weeks before the wedding his EX wife used the kids against us when ever it seemed fun for her. But I am the bad guy now. His mom is not only happy to have him there, she is tickled of the prospect of our divorce. He says he still loves me, he don't want the divorce but thinks it is necessary for us to be happy. I am not happy. He is the only father my children have ever known. His mother don't want them around but he still wants to see them & be called daddy. Why can't I hate him? It has been almost 3 weeks and I can't stop crying and I am not even a crying type of girl. We just refinanced our home & made the first payment 1 week AFTER he left. Says I can have the house but neither of us can afford it alone. I got 3 kids and about to loose my home. Any advice?

by Branny 718 Posts
Posted on 5/12/2008 8:30 PM

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Thank you for your reply. My life is just a mess right now. I did consult a lawyer today and I can't even afford that. He is dragging his feet & leaving everything upto me and still hasn't even come for his stuff, made arraingements to store his stuff. My parents said me & the kids can live with them but I still can't afford to pay half the mortage & rent there either. I am sorry I am so gripy I am still stunned I guess and just very confused on all of this. Thank you for your kindness.

by Branny 718 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 8:07 PM

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Branny, if he is still on the mortgage, there is an obvious incentive for him to do something about the house too (after all non-payment of the mortgage will affect his credit rating too). If he's got half of a brain, he will be willing to put the house up for sale and you may be able to stall long enough until it's sold, pay off what you can of the mortgage and find less expensive living arrangements nearby.

If he is too dumb to agree to it, you may have to file and see if (a) you can seek some kind of temporary court order to sell the property or (b) file for bankruptcy protection if possible. You will need to check with a lawyer in your area to see how viable these alternatives are.

Best of luck to you.

by justokguy 145 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 3:11 PM

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