I didn't want a divorce, but I must now live with my wifes decision to divorce me. I did what was best for my stbx wife and boys. I agreed to let her keep our home and boys, ages 6&9. Losing my wife, boys and home all at once and having to completly start over is terribly painful. The thing I am having a very difficult time with is being forced into the role of "Non Custodial Parent" with "Standard Visitation".

I was a very active dad in my boys lives. You cannot parent your children every other weekend. I feel am nothing more now then a friend, uncle or even a baby sitter and a large monthly funding source called child support. How am I supposed to be a proper dad under these awful circumstances?

I miss my boys, picking them up and having to give them back to there mom living in what used to be my home too, it hurts me and our boys so much. How do I make it better for us?

My greatest fear will be when my stbx remarries in the future and another man is raising my boys. The thought of this is pure anguish and drives me insane. How do I handle this?

Any parents forced into being a part time mom or dad please share your thoughts or experiences. I am really having a hard time with this and your input would help.
Thanks WarrenG