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Job offer in FL leaves my son in CT, what should I do?

I have a job offer in FL and live in CT. Currently I see my son  every other weekend and 6 weeks over the year. I do not want to leave him, but my job and this state kill me everyday. What should I do, how do I go about doing it and what harm can happen to him and is it avoidable or at least improvable?

by Dev 
Posted on 5/11/2008 4:26 PM    
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Dev, it's certainly a difficult situation.  I feel for ya. 

I guess the first question has to do with the living arrangement with your son currently.  Is he doing OK?  Is he fairly well adjusted?  Do you and your ex get along?  Do you get to spend the kind of time you want presently?  Are you happy with the current custody arrangement?  If the answer to all that is yes, speaking for myself, as much as I hated my job, I would be hard-pressed to leave a seven-year-old son to go several thousand miles away and lose a lot of contact with him.  Sure, there's telephones and e-mail and webcams... but somehow, I wouldn't think it would be the same.

 

Second, I would seriously re-evaluate your work situation.  Maybe you could find a different job in CT in a different field.  Even if it did not pay as much, it might be work the sacrifice.  Or you might consider a total change, something you really love doing, not just tolerate.

Just some random thought, man.  I hope you can find the right balance.


  by justokguy
Posted on 5/13/2008 5:12 PM

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He is 6, 7 in July. It is a lateral move but out of a state I cant stand and a job that is just bringing me down. How do the families make the distance work?

  by Dev
Posted on 5/13/2008 2:41 PM

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This is a tough situation you are in.  How old is your son?  Is it a promotion? or just a lateral move?  I know several families that make the commute work, it is tough but expensive to buy plane tickets every month.

  by Bea4
Posted on 5/11/2008 8:18 PM

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