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miserable me I'm in a miserable state of mind right now. 3 weeks ago my wife kicked me out of the house claiming that we are just too different and should'nt be together anymore.This is a home that I brought into the marriagepaid off with the deed free and clear and in my name alone. But now I am homeless with only a few artiles of clothing, my car, computer and a few toiletries' while she is living comfortably in my home. She got a temporary restraing order against me so I cant eve talk to her to try to work things out. she just does'nt want to communicate so thast we can resolve our issues. I love her so dearly even though we do in fact have our differences and have been on shakey ground for a while.I don't want to divorce. Even arter all the rotten things that she has done to me I still love her and think that I always will. What can I do if she doesnt want to work things out. Iwant to do everything in my power to save my marriage, but I may not have any other option other than divorce. Should I give it more time

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nowhereman,
If she has a restraining order against you there has to be a reason because Judges these days are not fast to throw someone out anymore. I am sorry that you out of your home but, when you married it became hers too. If she wants a divorce well let her have it! Do you want to live with her knowing she will throw you out again? But if you love her try going to counseling and support groups to help get you through this hard time. Yes do not talk or write or e-mail her that is going against your restraining order, be careful with that. Good luck!

by camero 90 Posts
Posted on 5/14/2008 1:47 PM

Another suggestion that will probably work. Go to a therapist for your own problems. Go to an anger management group. I bet she would be impressed by you seeking help for yourself. You can work with the therapist on how to make your marriage work. Also work on some of the issues that caused her to get a restraining order in the first place. At some point she may be willing to go to counseling with you. But if you start changing yourself, your relationship with her will also change. You need to convince her that you are willing to work on yourself to change whether or not she comes back.

by EricaManfred 105 Posts
Posted on 5/11/2008 1:04 PM

Thanks. I am willing tho give her all the space she needs. She is very upset right now.She has the restraining order on my just to keep me away from her. there were no acts of violence of any kind,this time around, but in some of our past conflics the has been name calling and hateful and hurtful words exchanged.I don't want to pressure her. Ijust wish that she would be willing to leave a line of communication open so that we could work out our differences amicably. I love her so much.

by nowareman 57 Posts
Posted on 5/11/2008 12:38 PM

On what grounds did she get the restraining order? If there was some kind of violence or threats it would be best to leave the situation alone for a while. Can you ask a mutual friend to get some clothing for you? Or email her to ask for her to leave what you need where you can pick it up. If you want to have any hope of your marriage continuing you need to give her a lot of space right now. Yes, give it more time, let her know you're not pressuring her, you're willing to do things her way. Good luck.

by EricaManfred 105 Posts
Posted on 5/11/2008 10:28 AM

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