My husband wants a divorce after a short 2 and a years! We have a beautiful 21 month old daughter together that means the world to each of us. I recently found out of an affair my husband has been carrying on with his co-worker that dates back 4 months. At the time that I found out about it we were separated, but still living in the same household raising our daughter and still intimate. The reason for our separation in the first place was because of all the arguing and bickering. I went through a bad relationship as a teenager and began suffering from mild depression, low esteem, and insecurities. I carried this baggage over into my marriage, and did not know how to control them. I was checking his phone,phone bills, emails, anything I could find to catch anything........... I knew in my heart he wasn't really cheating but I just couldnt control my actions because of my issues. I had been doing this pretty much the entire marriage, and I guess somewhere in between there my husband my husband became extremely uhappy and told what bothered him about me, I didnt change however, and just further more isolated myself. I never told him about the abuse I went through in a previous relationship because I was trying to handle things on my own. This pushed my husband away, and it soon came to a head in one of our heated arguments and we decided on a separation for a month to cool off and re-evaluate everything, to change so we can be together. During this month separation we were still intimate and living together. I tried to reconcile with him several times during this month but failed, he still needed time. Imagine that! So I became suspicious .Why isnt he as adamant as me to save this relationship? So I immediately figured it was someone else. Which I proved to be right. he started working shift with the female co-worker and they got pretty close. Hmmmmmm.......without me knowing completely the details but going off of intitution I asked him several times was it someone else. It was always a no, it's just not working out between us. Yeah ok. So finally my husband lays it out there and tells me he wants a divorce, this shocks me, I didnt know things were that bad. But then later on he tells me he wants to try again. That was when I find out about the affair. Since then, much has happened we tried things out for about a month, but i found out he was still having contact with her after work so he and she suffered the consequences. we are in the military and the military doesnt play with the adultery mess, so I told his commanding officer about the affair and the evidence I have supporting it, and they were put on a no contact order an dput on different shifts. I believe this angered him and now he no longer wants to try. he now wants the divorce but wont file it now because we are moving to arizona in july. Right now we are still living in the same apartment, have been intimate, and are still doings things together. Is there hope?