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Do Your Kids Long for A Two-Parent Household?

My daughter told me the other day that she is glad she doesn't live in a 2-parent household. We talke a bit about why. For her, it is because she recognizes that we are a lot closer as a result of it being just her and me, and also that I would have been unhappy living with her father. Granted, my daughter doesn't really know any other way. We split when she was 2 and now she's 14. But it made me wonder if other kids long for a 2-parent household or see the benefits of being raised by a single parent?
by GirlfriendsGuidetoDivorce 
Posted on 5/10/2008 9:39 AM    
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It's nice to think about the upside for kids of divorced parents. My daughter has a good relationship with my bf, but I think that she also knows that she comes first and foremost in my life. What I don't like is that she can be a bit cynical about men. I try to reinforce how many wonderful men there are out there that we know. Hopefully it's just a phase!
by GirlfriendsGuidetoDivorce  181 Posts
Posted on 5/12/2008 9:32 AM
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I think living in a single parent home does make the kids closer to the parent that is raising them. I think my boys longed at one point to have a father figure, but in the same sense, we have an awesome relationship because I had to do the fatherly things with them as well as the motherly things. I think if a child doesnt know any better, they arent really fazed. My youngest was a year and a half when I left his father so he doesnt know anything but what he lived. He is 16 now. If things work out in a 2 parent household, thats awesome, but if they dont, the kids are way more adaptable then most people give them credit for.
by Lori-Woodall  471 Posts
Posted on 5/10/2008 1:16 PM
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Mine don't . I think my oldest son is glad I have a bf who is interested in his life and has common interests.
I have always been pretty much the ony one for my kids.
My oldest daughter(26) made a comment that my bf is like the dad they never had and she can see why the kids like him so much.
My youngest daughter has good father figures in her life besided my bf that have taken her under their wing.
I have wished and prayed for men to come into my kids lives that would be a good example for them. It has been tough and now my boys are 14 & 16. I am glad to have someone to teach them to be a man, although I have tried my hardest it is hard for a woman to do. My goal has been to raise my kids to be as well rounded as possible and they are. Whether or not there is a man in their life is not the issue but to be there for them in any way that I can. I think you are correct, she is used to having you to herself and that what she knows. It is better for you to have an example of no relationship than a bad relationship. You can be close to her. Focus on raising her > I would hope that saomeday you might find someone.
by mtnvly  488 Posts
Posted on 5/10/2008 11:42 AM
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