I am a 23 year old Army wife, so already you can probably tell I am in a difficult situation.  First of all, my husband and I don't have any kids together.  Anyways,  my husband is currently in Iraq on his second deployment and everything was fine up until about 4 days or so ago.  He would ignore my emails or IM's and then last night he told me that I better find a job or else he is leaving me.  He has his R&R in July and that gives me about a month and a half or so, but the thing is, is that I have been trying extremely hard to find a job, but I am in Michigan right now staying with family until he gets back from this deployment and in Michigan jobs are extremely limited and are hard to find, but I am trying.  Not only that, my husband told me that he needs to see proof that I have a job so he wants me to show him my paycheck stubs each time I get paid.  Then I find out that I can't get into our bank account online, he changed the password and everything on me, but I still can go to the bank and take money out and get statements on the latest activity.  I played dumb and said "I can't get into the account I don't know what is going on" and I asked him if he knew anything about it and he denied it, then I told him that there was a new security question on there and that's when he admitted to locking me out of the account.  Why he did, I have no clue because I can still go to the bank and take money out. Another thing....is that my husband just opened up another bank account online in only his name and he is taking money out of our joint account and transfering it into this new account of his, he did tell me about this and he said that once he transfers money into his new account that he will unlock our joint account.  I also found out, on my own, he did not tell me so he doesn't know...but he opened up some kind of stock thing or something, and I know he is going to put some money in there.  I am extremely confused as to what is going on, and I am looking at it as if he wants a divorce, because a year ago he told me he wanted a divorce just out of the blue and everything was almost final all I had to do was sign the papers.  Then he called me one day saying that he had made a big mistake and wanted me to come back, and I guess I was stupid and went back, so now I am going through this all over again and I don't even know why, because we haven't gotten into any disagreements or argurements in a long time.  He even knows how much money I am entitled to as his spouse and in order to find that out I know he went to JAG.  I am so confused in this situation and I don't know what to do...he is threatening me...either I get a job or we are getting a divorce, and that does not sound normal to me....If anyone has any advice at all, I would really appreciate it!!!