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Does Divorce Make You Bitter Towards Marriage?

Melanie Yexley plans weddings for a living.  According to her friends and clientele, she's invaluable to have at a wedding, even as a guest, because if the day needs saving, she can do it.  One thing Melanie doesn't discuss with her clients: She doesn't believe in marriage.

 

Melanie always dreamed that prince charming would sweep her away.  She found her prince, twice.  Both times ended in heartache, so now she refuses get married again.  That doesn't stop her from trying to make the wedding the best day possible.  She figures the dream may fade, but the bride deserves a fantastic day.

 

Melanie says, "While the fairytale didn't work out afterwards, I still have that perfect day — my perfect wedding. If it hadn't been brilliant, I'd feel I was missing out, but because I experienced my dream day I'm satisfied. So now I want everyone to feel how I felt at my wedding — whatever follows, that happiness will help them deal with tricky times — together or apart."

 

Source: www.dailymail.co.uk


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I think that divorce can leave you bitter about re-marrying but I think that time is the key factor. Not only does time have something to do with it, but finding someone that you can trust all over again also matters. If you fall in love again, then marriage doesn't come so bitterly.
by Deborah-Trevino  224 Posts
Posted on 5/22/2008 7:50 AM
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I suppose that's all that any of us can do Lorafina.
by Robert-Boyd  1615 Posts
Posted on 5/10/2008 6:58 PM
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I have been divorced twice.  I'm definitely turned off on marriage at the moment (it has been a year since my last divorce).  I dated awhile, but that turned me off further.  I would like to think that I will not spend the rest of my life along, but the truth is, that does scare me. 
So, I guess my answer is,....Yes, it turned me off on marriage after the second one, but I still hope that one day I will find happiness in a marriage.
by lorafina  7 Posts
Posted on 5/10/2008 6:26 PM
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Well said Mtnvly.  I agree.
by Robert-Boyd  1615 Posts
Posted on 5/9/2008 3:45 PM
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I wouldsay that it shouldn't but it often does. It would depend on the situation . Some divorces are a huge battle. Some are not.
As for me...I would like to be married again. I have learned though..choose carefully and keep your eyes open. Hold onto your heart as much as possible until you are sure they are the one. Once they have your heart you are blinded....
by mtnvly  489 Posts
Posted on 5/9/2008 7:07 AM
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I don't think divorce makes you bitter towards marriage. It makes you bitter at your partner and what they put you through but through TIME you learn to forgive and move on.  Forgiveness doesn't mean you condone what they did or that you even want them back but what it does do is set you free to find joy and happiness again. I don't personally think getting married needs to be on someones agenda all the time. I think it is more important to enjoy life, keep old friends and make new ones as you go along in life and not dwell on the past. You can't control yesterday and tomorrow is a mystery so I think staying focused on the day you are living in right now is the most important path to take.
Who knows what the future holds. That's the excitement of it. Anticipation. If and when the right one comes along, you will know. Trust your insticts and gut feelilngs. They usually aren't wrong.
Love is not elusive.
by Linny  152 Posts
Posted on 5/9/2008 6:37 AM
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