cell phone messages

This is the very same way that I discovered my husband was seeing someone else.  I had always known in my gut but wanted so badly to believe his lies.  I know exactly how you feel...the words I read will forever be burned into my brain and I wish I could let go of them.  My thoughts and compassion are with you!  Good luck with everything!

I'm am truly sorry for you. I know that feeling that shoots through you when your worst fear is confirmed. You will probably get all kinds of advice from all kinds of people so I'd like to get in my advice to you; I found out that my wife had an affair a year ago and after wrestling with what to do for a year now I have decided that a person should not have to work so hard at marriage. You should be happy to come home and spend time with your spouse...not dreading the sight of them...the awkwardness that comes after the affair. Rebuilding...at least for me...is much harder than moving on. And the reward for rebuilding may be holding your family together but the result is still just a messed up marriage.

well it turns out i don't need it after all bc i seen one of the texts with my own eyes and im calling a divorce lawyer today.

You may already be aware of this and it will give you no "proof" but you can view your cell bill online and get a very good breakdown of text, voice and pic-text usage. You can even see the last text and call on the history as of this minute on Verizon. The cell phone was how I became curious, the online bill clinched it... when I viewed it I knew for sure. Be careful though, while we are still working on us...I obsess on that online statement, scrutinizing and looking for patterns and checking for any indicator that she is still cheating.