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child custody options

My husband and I go to court on Monday. He is requesting the children be with him one week and me the next.  They are 6 and 3 years old.  I disagree.  I would prefer every other weekend and one night a week for  him and the remainder of time with me.  I have always been primary caretaker.  He loves the children and wants more time.  Any suggestions as to any other options for custody/time with parents?  I would love for us to come to an agreement before court.

by santafe 
Posted on 5/7/2008 10:02 AM    
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highly doubtful he will - you don't say what you offer for holidays but if you were giving half of them with that schedule - that barely comes out to 28% of time. If I were his attorney I'd tell him to decline it.

your ex isn't big on schedules more than likely because he doesn't have to be - that doesn't mean he will slack in your children's education.

divorce puts people into temporary financial strain the couch your child sleeps on is temporary and he is no worse for wear for it - many kids right after a divorce end up on the floor in a sleeping bag where one of the parents live. You have to get back on your own two feet too.

Don't put your negative opinions of the man due to your failed marriage on his parenting, that is unfair.

 


  by spaznskitz
Posted on 5/10/2008 1:12 AM

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My lawyer made an offer of every other weekend..Fri - Mon morning and one night a week.  Once school is out, every 3rd week with their father.  My concern is that especially during school, my husband is not in a routine and schedules are not important to him.  The kids need a routine.  I have my grandmother's home prepared for the kids and I.  We will probably lose our home because of financial issues.  My husband is staying with his parents and my 6 year old son is sleeping on the sofa.  I cannot stand that!  It is my prayer that he will accept our offer on Monday when we go to court.

  by santafe
Posted on 5/9/2008 11:53 AM

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he wants 50/50  - that is understandable - the schedule you suggest gives him barely any realy time at all.

many of my clients do two weeks with one parent and the kids go to the other parent on the mid weekend - to keep the switching to a minimum - works quite well.


I'm a family law attorney

  by spaznskitz
Posted on 5/8/2008 2:26 AM

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Alot of parents have both of those set ups and they work. If you cant come to a decision before court, the judge will do it for you. Possibly thru mediation. The kids are young enough that they wont be effected too much, especially when it comes to school. Think about the kids and what is best for them. Get use to disagreements when it comes to the children while going thru a divorce. It happens all the time especially when it comes to child support. If its something you believe in strongly, dont back down but have proof to support your case and why it would be a bad idea for the kids to be with their father every other week. To just say because you dont want them to wont work. You need a good reason that is logical so the judge will see your side. Good luck.

  by Lori-Woodall
Posted on 5/7/2008 1:13 PM

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