What Would You Change?

yes i agree honesty is very important in a marriage. my marriage will be over sometime this year, i was married for almost 30 years. The only thing i would have changed was my husbands abusing,cheating, controlling ways. yes if he would have been a loving husband maybe it could have been forever.

Well, I hate to say it but the first thing I would have changed is not marring her. I had a gut feeling it was wrong 20 years ago but I did nothing about it. Now, after almost 19 years of marriage I have to move on.
From now on I will trust my gut feelings and not get into a relationship that doesn't feel right.
Another thing I learned from this relationship is you have to be honest. I always thought I was honest but someone pointed out to me that I wasn't. I was miserable for most of the marriage and instead of voicing my feelings and concerns, I kept my mouth shut. In essence saying everything is just hunky dory. I know now that honesty about things is so very important. If something is bothering me I will tell my partner as soon as possible. I think things get solved much faster this way with less stress and misunderstanding.