I married my husband in Indiana AFTER we had our child.  I lived in California my entire life (26 years) and now during this horrible divorce I am going through I found out my dad is dying from heart failure.  He had a stroke and things are not looking very good for him.  He is and always has been my best friend and he is asking me to move back to California.  What do I have to do to do this.  We have only had a preliminary hearing and I have sole physical custody with joint legal custody.  How could I work this so I don't have to spend extremely extended periods of time away from my son, who is the most important thing in my life next to my dad and mom.  It's not like my dad is an old man who's had heart trouble or heart attacks for years, he's 58 and this all came on very suddenly and he's practically begging me to move back and it's tearing me apart.  I miss my whole family, my friends, my life here that I had before I moved and got pregnant....then decided to wed for moral reasons...not for love.  My soon to be ex knew I was from CA and we had even visited several times.  I know he will fight me, but what can he do to stop me.  Can he stop me, what are my bargaining points, what could I do about custody.  Should I do it before our final hearing while I have temp. physical custody.  My ex is an abusive nasty person and I do have respect for his right to be a father to his son, whom he loves dearly, but my son and I would have a better life, a support system of family and friends here.  I have none of that in Indiana anymore.  Can anyone give advice on how I can move to CA and keep my son with me as much as feasibly and morally possible.  I know there are some people here who would terribly disagree with my desire to move two thousand miles away from my son's father, but I have no friends in Indiana and my ex has drug me thru the mud in all the small towns where I used to frequent.  I can't even go to the gas station without getting a dirty look or having someone ask me about my divorce.  It's awful.  I want to get out of there so badly and be with my family and my father.  I need some advice fast.  I have a great family and network of friends here in California that I think would benefit my son very much...not to take away the benefit he has with the contact with his father....I'm not knocking that, I just want to move back home and need to know what to do and if I can do it.  Thank you.