when you file for divorce in the temp papers ensure that you have a morals clause written in.

neither parent will have a member of the oppostie sex, if not related by birth or marriage, around the children during overnight visitation.

that will ensure that he can't bring the kids around the other woman, or have them stay at her home.


I'm a family law attorney

It sounds like he thinks the grass will be greener on the other side of the street, and guess what it's not.  I just don't understand how he can take the kids over there while you both are still married and look himself in the mirror after that.  He is using poor judgement and not being a good role model for his kids.  You don't have to say anything to the kids about what their dad is doing, they will be able to see for themselves because kids are very intelligent human beings.  They know more than what we think they know.  If he's treating you badly and telling you he's done nothing wrong, that's the guilt in him coming out.  My ex did the same thing, he kept saying he's doing nothing wrong and nothing to feel guilty about, but he was cheating on me for months before we finally separated.  I really don't think this will last for him, because this new relationship is built on lust not love.  I'm sure later on down the line when you have moved on and found someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated and is great with your kids, and you are happy once again, I'm sure he will see all that and regret what he has done.  If he thinks this lady he's with will be faithful to him and only him, after she was with him (a married man), then he's sorely mistaken, she'll turn around and do this to him later on down the line.  I always say once a cheat always a cheat, and it sounds like you are better off without him.  It's hard when you have kids together, because you have to deal with each other no matter what.  But your kids will see him for what he truly is!!