Having my wife of ten years divorce me because she's "not happy any more" and "our views are different" ,losing my wife, boys and home has nearly emotionally crippled me. But the worst part for me is no longer being able to live with my boys and father them properly. I miss them so much, the ache in my heart is unbearable. 

Thank You!! For taking the time to share your thoughts and pain with me. It helps to share with others who understand. Especially now, I am currently working nights @ 80-90 hours per week, so I have not been able to join a divorce recovery group. Reading your replys have been a comfort to me. Thank you for caring. WarrenG

my divorce is not even final yet but when i decided to leave him because i had proof of him cheating of cource he denied yet...but never once even considered stopping the divorce..to go for counceling...15 years and did not turn every stone to make it work...i was shockek when he told everyone that we both decided to move on...no he decided and left me to take care of 5 kids and work full time... i cant see th light at the end of the tunnel... i am in a state of shock most of the time...i cant eat, sleep function...all i think about is him all day...i know it will get better and this too shall pass but i take one day at a time....if it was not fro my  kids honestly depression would consume me...but i cant give him that satisfaction...learn to move on...dont let the ex know that you are having a hard time...thats exactly what they want...meditate, get hobbies and just get new friends and sooner then later you will move on...good luck

I am still in the same home that he left us in and I have put as much away as possible. He still has belongings here and it is very difficult with the memories. It has been tree weeks for me too, and it is still very painful. It consumes my heart, soul, and mind at all times. I do not try to figure out why, I just am in shock still and am numb to it. I guess that I have not accepted this at all, and I do not think that I ever will. It is quite painful the reasons that he gave me, i.e. I do not feel it in my heart, I am not in love with you anymore, sice we have been back together for a year I thought that it was the right thing to do but I can not fake it anymore. Those are some of the things that he said. So that means that for the last year that he said all of these beautiful things to me and the children and all of the times that he made love to me meant absolutely nothing and it was all lies. How do you do that to your wife of 18 years and your children that are 9 and 13? I feel your pain and I understand. I cry myself to sleep alot and I cry alot during the day. I have a hard time performing at my job, of which I am usually at 150%. I do not believe that I will ever heal from this.

I know

I have to counsel a lot of clients who wonder - what now?

 

you will get through this rough patch, and be a better person for it when it comes to your next relationship.

spaznskitz
During a divorce "you can't see the forest for the trees".
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