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Don't see a way out.

I posted to Money Matters.  I'm so botchy in the post I can't even understand myself!  I will paste it below this msg so you will know why I'm asking for information/advise.  The fact of the matter is I'm married to one cruel man!  He only wanted a self-supporting maid and if possible, take whatever he can from me to leave to his son.  He treats me like his maid and I can't make up my mind to go since I'm sixty-seven years old and not in good health.  Thank you for reading my post.  Here is the original post to Money Matters:

I was a widow drawing SS disability and a small pension from my late husband. I remarried and signed a prenup on then current comunity property. New husband does not support me financially. He lets me live and eat in his house. I do all the work. He is very wealthy and will deprive himself of drinking milk because he is a miser. He is almost 70 yrs old, retired, and has made a will leaving everything to his sole heir, a 35 yr old son who is also very wealthy. In his will, I have use of the house until I die. He knows I'd not live in it because I can't afford it. My income goes to mostly medical. When we married, he insisted we live in his house so I sold my paid-for cottage and cleared much less than a seventy-five thousand. This I put in a CD prior to marriage. I've tried to save as much as I possibly could from my income but it isn't very much. He now wants "half of the community" to go to his son. This he put in his will. He doesn't buy anything of value and does something with his income, SS and pension, intrest income, which I believe goes into a safe deposit box. He made it plain that I was not to touch his money, check book,etc. and that I was to support myself with the exception of food (measly) and a roof. I don't know how much longer I can live with this person. I need to know if what I managed to save from my late husband's pension and my drawing SS disability on his number is considered community property. Please help me. Thank you kindly

by mam    2 Posts   
Posted on 5/3/2008 1:52 PM    
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and you married this man....why?

If I were you, I'd divorce the man let him have whatever he wants just to be rid of him, take your money and move into an assisted living/senior community and live out your days happy - and making new friends.
by spaznskitz   2500 Posts
Posted on 5/4/2008 2:57 AM
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